How to Make Your Ex Feel Curious About You After No Contact

Okay, so you've decided to go no contact with your ex. You're doing it for the right reasons - to heal, to grow, and to give yourself some much-needed space. But as the days turn into weeks, you can't help but wonder if they're thinking about you, too. And maybe, just maybe, you want them to feel that little spark of curiosity, that "what if" feeling.

Here's the thing: No contact isn't just about making your ex miss you; it's about making you miss *you*. It's about reclaiming your power and your sense of self. But if you're aiming for that little bit of intrigue, there are definitely ways to make it happen.

Think of it like a slow burn: You want to spark their curiosity without making it obvious. You want them to think, "Wait, what's going on? What's she/he doing?"

So, how do you do it? Let's dive into some strategies that can work wonders:

Step One: The Clean Break

Before we talk about anything else, we need to get this straight: Going no contact means going *completely* no contact. This means no calls, texts, emails, social media interactions, or any attempts to communicate in any way.

Why? Because any contact, even seemingly harmless, can send mixed signals. If you reach out to them, it can make them feel like you're not really committed to the no contact rule, and you're giving them an excuse to linger in the past. Remember, you're aiming for that "What’s she/he up to?" feeling, not "I can still get in touch with her/him."

Block Them (if you need to)

This is a tough one, but sometimes it’s the only way to really enforce the no contact rule. If you find yourself constantly checking your phone or social media for updates on your ex, blocking them might be necessary. This way, you can focus on yourself and not be tempted to break no contact.

Step Two: Focus On You

This is the most important part: Use this time to focus on yourself, your growth, and your happiness.

Think of it like this: You're taking a break from your ex to work on your "best self" version. The more you focus on your personal development, the more you'll attract good things, including maybe even a renewed interest from your ex.

The "New You" Project

This is your chance to do all the things you've been putting off. Take that dance class, join a book club, start a new hobby, or travel to that place you've always dreamed of. The more you invest in yourself, the more you'll become someone you truly admire and love.

Step Three: Let The Mystery Linger

Okay, you've gone no contact, you've focused on yourself, and you've become a new, even better version of you. Now it's time to let the mystery unfold.

Social Media: Update, Don't Overwhelm

If you're on social media, don't delete your account or make it private. Instead, use it to subtly showcase your life. Maybe post a picture of yourself at that dance class, share a quote that resonates with you, or talk about a new project you're excited about. Just keep it light and positive. You don't need to be a social media influencer, but you do want to show that you're living your life to the fullest.

The Less, The Better

The temptation to post every detail of your life on social media can be strong, but remember, too much can be overwhelming. Keep it subtle and avoid posting about your feelings, especially negative ones. Remember, you want to spark curiosity, not push them away.

Step Four: Maintain the No Contact

This is where many people slip up. You might start to see signs that your ex is thinking about you - a "like" on a post, a mutual friend mentioning their name. It's tempting to reach out, but don't!

Remember, you want to be the prize. You want them to come to you, not the other way around. If they reach out, you can decide whether you want to respond, but don't initiate contact. Let their curiosity keep them on edge.

The Right Time to Break No Contact

So, when is the right time to break no contact? It's a personal decision, but here are a few things to consider:

Time: Usually, going no contact for at least 30 days is a good starting point, but you can extend it longer if you feel it's necessary. It’s all about giving yourself enough time to heal and move forward.

Your Feelings: Are you truly over your ex, or do you still have strong feelings for them? If you haven't moved on emotionally, it’s probably best to wait.

Their Actions: Have you seen any positive changes from your ex? Are they showing genuine signs of growth and remorse? If so, it might be a good time to open the door for a conversation.

A Word of Caution: Be Prepared

Remember, making your ex curious about you is not a guarantee they’ll come crawling back. They might be too hurt or not ready to re-engage. And that's okay! The goal is to be the best version of yourself, not to chase someone who doesn't want you.

And even if your ex does come back, be careful. Make sure it's for the right reasons. You deserve someone who is fully committed to you, and you deserve to be with someone who truly values you.

No contact is about regaining your power and your sense of self-worth. Use this time to rebuild yourself, and remember, you're not playing games. You're simply investing in your own happiness.